What does success really mean? Success for RIK ASSFALG is how we internally condition ourselves. A positive internal state will eventually manifest.
Hey! My name is RIK ASSFALG. R-I-K A-S-S-F-A-L-G. And I am very happy to talk to you today because this is the place where we share some little insights that we figured out or we thing we are important for the world. Not because we know anything better, not because we are teachers. We are not but sometimes a little light or a little push in the right direction is all you need for your next right step and this is the place if you find this valuable for you to take it, implement it, and share it with more loving people. To make this world ultimately a better place.
So today, we talk about success. What is success? Success is very individual. Wouldn’t you agree? For somebody it’s just money or resources, for somebody else it’s pure happiness to be with their loved ones, for somebody else it’s a perfect marriage or relationship. So it is very, very, very subjective what success is but ultimately, success can be reduced to one thing. If you are able to serve the world with love, about what you do best, about what brings you joy, about what fulfills you, and you can give it our to the world and serve the world with it, whatever it is, this is the ultimate definition of success. And everything that follows is a measurement, is a scale or is something to find out how good you are doing. Money, wealth, resources, that’s energy. That’s just a good scale or a good measurement how well you do serving the world with your best.
What everybody is lasting for is love but this thing is so interesting because I believe we can really reduce the way this world works in more or less love and hate. Success does not come overnight but success is something that is really, really, really omnipresent for a moment. Get momentum. It goes to a peak and disappears. And what then, people get so disappointed, please get so thrown behind. They get so depressed and this could be avoided in my point of view, you know why? First of all, you should really take good, good, good care and attention how you become successful. Never ever, this is a big recommendation and I know you know it’s true. Never ever become successful on the back or on the pain of somebody else without sharing with them, acknowledging them or something like that. Never ever throw anybody under the bus. Even though this might work for a while; my friend, this will come back on you so hard like you don’t believe it. Karma fucks best full stop, end of story. So that’s number one.
Number two, know why you are successful. Know your value. Know what you contribute actively to the world on the best possible level that you can achieve. You grow and grow and keep on learning, keep on learning, keep on growing, keep on delivering to the world, that is ultimately what makes you successful and take a good look. Take good care on that. Know what happens out there. Know why you are successful, know why people love what you have to give. Know why people give you money for that. That’s very, very crucial and I bet with you a lot of people who become successful overnight don’t even waste a thought about it.
And number three which is my most important biggest thing to share with you is to make yourself aware and you are loved human being though but you should always be humbly laid back and not arrogant. Why sometimes success stops immediately? Often what happens to people who become successful are not ready enough for their success. They failed miserably. Why? Because they think it’s them that everybody else loves, because they feel so important. Our society is to blame about this really. We have VIP’s… Very important people. Why? Are you more important than I am? Is somebody more important than you? No. I don’t think so. But this hype-y thing, this over the moon praising of somebody who achieved something on this and is in the momentum is very, very, very, very hard to get from those who are in the position of being in the position of being so well treated. And it’s not easy to remain with both feet on the carpet. Most fly somewhere in the clouds and don’t find the crown. That’s a big problem for them but for us, no because one goes the next one comes. One good singer, it disappears because he goes crazy and success goes away then next day there’s another guy or another girl. Or a basketball player, next day there’s another guy he can jump even maybe 5 Centimeters more. Whatever. This is not important. We know it but they don’t know it.
One of my jobs is I consult successful people and I try to always, always, always work only with people who get that or who get that after we talk about it. Because it’s very, very… I would say it’s almost impossible to deal with somebody or to talk with somebody, to work with somebody on a nice level. You can make money everywhere. You can make money with stupid stuff too but to work with somebody and to achieve something to have success, it is not so easy or I would say impossible for doing this to somebody who really is so self-convinced by them, so full of themselves that they would think everything that happens, happens to them because they become non appreciative for team mates, they are bad bosses. It’s very hard to work with people like this because they are so full of themselves I almost said full of shit but first of all we don’t say shit here and second of all, yeah… But in good faith you know what I mean, right? That shit is them and that own shit is what brings them exactly that in the long run. So it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. Same in coaching. When I deal with people who you think had it all, can do it all are those people you want to have their lives. And then if you would see what happens within their lives, it’s the same freaking problems you and I have or everybody has and we are not more or we are not less than somebody else but you know if you deal with a billionaire. Are you a billionaire? I am not yet. So if you deal with a billionaire you should think, he or she could buy everything and that was a discussion with my bestselling author friend and she was like, “RIK, why is that?” “Why are those people still needing advice or coaching? What happens? What went wrong?” And I did not know. I just said I think that I always had this theory like take a rich person. If the rich person was a nice person even before he or she became rich, then it’s a nice rich person and if the person was an asshole, guess what? The odds are you know that it’s a rich asshole, right? So the state of being rich or not rich of having a lot of resources or not of being wealthy or not is not really a scale that works or guarantees that somebody is nicer or happier or anything. That is just a measurement of energy. I mean money and wealth and resources are energy really. It’s a good scale to see if you are on the right track if what you do gives a lot of purpose to somebody because somebody must give you that one right? So if you have a lot of resources then probably you are doing a lot of things good and right. So that’s my assumption here.
But then again we are really, really, really dependent on how our inner person, our inner us… is. That was a weird sentence I know. But we are dependent on our inner us is because why is that? I tell you why exactly. Take somebody who really became an overnight success and let’s say a singer. Let’s say the singer went to one of those shows and became a hyped superstar or a new superstar on the horizon. So this person has to bare and cope with a lot of love and a lot of things going on with their lives immediately because maybe they have not been prepared for that profoundly. Maybe their mentality has not been ripe enough or ready enough for all that success that you know is now bumping on to that person and that is a real hard thing to cope with for some people.
This is crazy. Really the most important thing to recap their lives… You see I even lost my thought, or my initial thought because I could talk about this for hours, and days because it is so important and so crucial and I see so great people throw away all their success and then suffering for the rest of their better life because it would be so easy.
Wherever you are in your development. Wherever you are in this life is not a reflection of how happy you are unless you feel the inner love until you understand that it’s not you who is important and that is the key message here. We’re talking about ego killing. It’s not you who causes all the trouble out there. It’s not you who causes all the fame out there. It’s not you the people love really right? It’s them consuming what you do. It’s them they don’t give a boo about you because when you are gone guess what? Ten minutes later, the next superstar is there. Ten minutes later the next best seller author is there. Ten minutes later another basketball star is there and he can jump even higher than you or whatever. Okay? So don’t think that the success that surrounds you is the reflection of you. It is not, my friends. And this is the biggest misconception people have. It is not you that people love. It is what you deliver. The value you create for others in this world. The highest purpose of what you can do – the best in you that serves the world for a better purpose. That is what people love.
I guarantee you my friends and this is something I mean very, very, very honest and very meaningful. It’s a very profound sharing with you from the bottom of my own heart really, you are not as important as you think you are. Let me repeat that; you are not as important as you think you are. End of story. If you understand that, and it’s not easy because we are talking about ego killing here. But if you understand that you are not as important as you think you are, then you gained a lot already and success is becoming an amazing long term friend for you. So they will love you for God’s gift. For the creator’s gift in you and you are just a tool. You just deliver that to the people. Your looks, your voice… What did you do for that? You trained a little bit, you sang and you practiced but the gift that’s been given from the higher creator from. That’s your purpose. That’s your holistic plan to make people’s hearts attached to that to deliver emotion to make people love you for that but it’s not you. Same with the basketball player. So you are the coolest basketball player, you trained all those little tricks. You are very cool, and you are tall but man this is a gift from God. This is a gift from the higher creator. People don’t love you for being tall. That’s not your… that’s not you. They don’t love you for being you. They love you for the gift that God gave you. They love you that you serve with that gift. That you found that great thing you can develop and can still deliver to this world. They love that you share this to them. That is why they love you. That’s the only reason.
My friends I could talk about this forever. Take away one thing; success is a good friend of you if you remain humble. If you understand that you’re success grows and multiplies with you becoming more humble and focusing more on remaining a student of life with you focusing more on how you can serve the world on a better even level. That is what you should strive for and then your success remains a long term friend with you that’s for sure. That’s a 100% my guarantee. If you don’t get crazy, if you don’t think you’re the coolest, best, sexiest, whatever and if you start really appreciating even more what others do for you, your team, your advisors, your fans, don’t become a greedy pig, don’t become super greedy, don’t become super selfish, never ever think you are the cream of the crop because you are. And if you think about cheese, now we smell like we don’t like. We’re not the cheese we might have the smell of it but we are not the cheese.
So ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, with much love and much appreciation. From a humble heart, I love you much and I hope that that was a little bit valuable for you. I kind of went under my skin a little bit because I have so many people that I see how they throw away what they could have achieved and it’s a pity because in the end it’s not for them either. It’s if somebody does something very well and their career cuts off, it’s a pity because they could be so much more valuable to the world and that’s in the end what we are talking about here.
Ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, talk to you very soon. Much love from here to there. My name is RIK ASSFALG. RIK.live is the website. R-I-K dot L-I-V-E. Talk to you soon. Bye.